Here’s something that’s been bugging me for a while now. Why does everyone insist that everybody be coupled? Why is that the norm anyway? What if coupling is just a neurotic response to one’s dependency needs? Sheesh. I know so many couples that are just glorified co-dependents. They are totally miserable. Some people are just better off on their own.
Of course, if two people really like each other and want to be together, then by all means go for it. I'm happy for them. It's just not the case for everybody.
So why is it that people are always asking me: “Are you seeing someone?” Why is it so important that I be seeing someone? Is my existence only legitimate if I’m half of a relationship? Am I validated only by another’s clinging presence?
No, I’m not seeing anyone, and I like it that way. I like being able to eat, drink, sleep, spend my money and dress the way I please and not be hen-pecked and nagged mercilessly for it. I like being single. For now.
Throwin' it on out there . . .
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Allow me to apologize profusely for my absense. As you know, for I've
babbled on incesently about it for a while, I had an improv show, and it's
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18 years ago
2 comments:
Hi, found your blog via a "Xena"-topic search.. anyway, this bit here ..
"So why is it that people are always asking me: “Are you seeing someone?” Why is it so important that I be seeing someone? Is my existence only legitimate if I’m half of a relationship? Am I validated only by another’s clinging presence?"
it's like speaking from my mind. Today I had the almost same thought. The problem is, when you react in that way or say sth. along these lines, the "coupled halves" smugly interpret it again as "frustration". Argh.
All the best!
Yeah, there's not many ways to answer without sounding bitter, resentful or, like you say, frustrated.
I'm going to write more about it later. But I'm really starting to think that my "single-ness" is more of a problem for other people than it is for me. Maybe it threatens them.
Thanks for the note. And yeah, Lucy Lawless rocks.
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